Psst… Size doesn’t equal pleasure

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Brace yourself men— I’m going to make your minds explode with force of an 800 kiloton bomb… size truly does not matter! Across the world pop culture has warped our views on what body types are deemed sexually attractive and how your ability to perform in the bedroom somehow reflects the realities of your character. Intercultural exchanges have led to harmful stereotypes and misconceptions that have made not just women get body dysmorphia —but men too.

Now perhaps more than ever, in our extremely image consciences lives, there’s a crushing pressure to not only realize the ideal image of a sexually attractive man, but to live up to the task. For some reason you boys like to measure things—all sorts of things from your height to your biceps to the percentage of fat you have. And of course, how large your… ahem… “manhood” is.

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I am here to offer a woman’s perspective that will hopefully debunk some of the penis-envy you may have over your peers.

First of all, we need to recognize and acknowledge that people come in a spectrum—a very broad spectrum of traits. Yes, it is true that some men in certain parts of the world may be more endowed than others, but it’s not rule. Just because a man is tall and has large feet and hands does not imply that he will have a large penis. Here’s where harmful stereotypes creep in; it has been widely circulated that men of African ancestry are much larger than those of Asian ancestry. This is false information, science has not found any evidence correlating between race or height with penis size.

It’s all in your head guys! Now drop it!

I know you’re all dying to know, what is the average size? Brace yourself again dear reader— penis globally is… 9-10 cm (translation 3.5 to 4 inches)! Yeah not bad right? Millions of men around the world hover around these numbers, with a few exceptions here and there.

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WHY IT DOESN’T MATTER

Here’s the sausage and meatballs of the situation: being awesome at sex has nothing… and I mean this with all sincerity… NOTHING to do with your penis. I realize for over two millennia men measured themselves by their virility (i.e. how many women they had sex with), but let me offer you this. True, there are those guys who are pick up artists who fall into bed with a seemingly endless supply of sexy women, but those men err on the side of being selfish and probably are shit in bed anyway.

Oh, and do you know why having a comically huge penis makes for a potentially horrible lover? Exactly that—the man is relying too much on his magic penis to reveal his woman's honest O-face.

News flash boys— only about 25% of women having vaginal intercourse will have an orgasm. The overwhelming majority of women reach the height of their pleasure through clitoral stimulation. A study in the Journal of Sex Marital Therapy found nearly 37 percent of women said they needed clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm! Another 36 percent said that even if they climaxed vaginally, it felt better when their partners stimulated their clitoris during sex.

Think about that for a second… Okay moving on!

In fact, having an average size penis could give you a distinct advantage… I’m talking about the G-spot. Scientists have long debated the existence of such a mysterious location and its effect on women’s sexual pleasure, but it is something you must know about. It’s an erogenous zone located about 2-3 cm inside the vaginal canal. Some even say there are more erotic spots located within the vagina. Most guys typically stimulate these areas manually with a finger or adult toys. While you're at it, explore the rest of her body. You have oh so many options…

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Believe it or not, if you’re too large it could make sex uncomfortable to some women. A woman’s vagina is flexible, but it typically is about 6- 8.25 cm when not in aroused state. It can stretch beyond that to accommodate a partner. Keep in mind though… not every woman enjoys having her internal organs viciously jabbed at during the horizontal tango! Given that vaginal orgasms are not that commonplace… you have nothing to worry about.

SO WHAT’S MY POINT?

The key to sex is being in tune to women’s feelings and pleasure centers. We have dozens of them! It’s more than just the clitoris or the vagina! You should take time to explore a few in detail. If you are a caring and generous lover, you will put forth the effort to finding what makes your lady tick through foreplay. We want to take a wild ride to our orgasms. We want to know our lovers care (at least a little) about how we feel. For us, sex is as much a physiological act as it is a psychological one.

Take the time to worship her as the sexual goddess she is and odds are—she will repay in kind. Now save that measuring stick some other kinky purpose. Remember, if you use money to measure wealth you’ll always be poor… and if you use another man’s penis to measure yourself, you’ll never get laid.

Stay sex positive Steem!

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