So... hmm. I don't know how to say this, or where to start, or if I should start...but let's just say that this article is not universally applicable. It is possible to for the sex-switch in the brain to be switched to off and to be a living, breathing organism that cannot relate to a word you just said, even if you points are understood conceptually.
Whether this switch is moved to the "off" position through genetics, trauma, or psychological abuse (we don't know), there are people who walk through life never once making a choice designed to sexually attract anyone...in fact, quite the opposite. If they learn that people are stimulated by an act or a look or an article of clothing, they will remove it from their life on all fronts.
These are not people who have been raped or molested. They're not even people who hate sex. They just don't have brains that register sexual touch as arousing, no matter who does it or how. And watching other people have sex is as stimulating as watching a pair of ants do it. Give them a vibrator for an hour, and they'll just read a book. Try to jack them off any which way and they won't get hard...no matter who does it or how attractive they are.
Certainly this is the minority of people. But, to them? No. Everything is not about sex. Even sex is not about sex. All that is certain is that we all came from people who had some sort of sex, and only the people who have sex will pass on their genetic memory to future generations. And the people who opt out will take their secrets with them...along with what they found so interesting that sex never made it to their Top 100 lists of enjoyable things to do?
What did they find infinitely more stimulating, and why? That's a question I'd like answered...hmm. So maybe I should find out and write an article. There's an idea...
Man, I love this site.
Not everything is directly related to sex. It revolves though around it. Even if people who have been abused like you say, have the rest of their lives defines by the lack of it.
I would love to see this debated. The next question, I'm fairly certain, would be how one can claim a life can be defined by the lack of something unessential to personal survival? Can one's life be defined by a lack of Spam?
I'm going to try to have this conversation by proxy, but I'm certain you would do it better.
Also, this person would be adamant that they were not abused. Also, all their siblings are sexually active. They are considered attractive by many and could have sex any day of the week with a male or a female, but they are not interested. They do like touch, cuddling, and massage. They have no repulsion to signs of arousal in others. They just have no desire to do anything beyond what two cats would do in a sunbeam. The person I am thinking of currently is 40, is a virgin (yes, they exist), and is fine with any kind of body contact, but has no desire to get naked about it. Ever. Even under the influence of drugs that promote this kind of sensation. They've tried all the things with the promise that if they want to say yes, they will. They never do.