Role-playing games: where to start?

Spicing things up for couples is an absolutely expected process with the time, and often - quite necessary. However, it’s not the easiest thing to talk about with your partner or even research yourself how can you do it to avoid awkward situations. In this article, you’ll know how to get it started and keep it going the way you want.

Communication Is Key

So, you’ve walked a long road to meet you bae. From hesitating to sign up for some online dating app, to reading, let say, every instasext review, to registering at one, and finally dating a person you really find interesting. And that’s great! With the time, though, your feelings might get way too comfortable so you don’t feel the same excitement as you did when you first read that instasext.com review. And that’s understood - no one has insurance from having their flames quiet down. What is the first thing to do? To talk.

Express Your Feelings

Holding emotions and feeling that concerns your partner to yourself is a ticking-time-bomb - it will explode anyway, but nobody can predict when and how bad will be the consequences. If you noticed that the things got plain between you two - just say it and start from there. Once you’ve both acknowledged it, there are plenty of options to create a new normal, and role-playing isn’t the last thing to do.

A Perfect Start

The way you’ve seen it in porn night get comic in real life if you didn’t do any warm-up. A good exercise to switch to a different time and space is to play the “what if” kind of thing. For one thing, it doesn’t have to be sexual (you can imagine what it would be like on the uninhabited island with just two of you), but it also can digress to a more intimate setting (what if we were in some sex club with people watching us?). The point of this what-ifs is to make you both comfortable with tailoring your behavior to a particular context that doesn’t require outfits and things. Once you’re ok with that, you can put the layers like clothes, locations, particular actions, etc.

Make Your Bedroom a Censorship-free Space

Role-playing in bed involves our fantasies, sometimes dark and violent, sometimes utterly stupid, and nothing ruins the game as someone saying you’re talking or doing shit. Make an agreement in advance that everything can be acceptable and set the limits of what’s not, and how you can say No without spoiling the fun. Your partner, for instance, might want to pretend to start an online dating thing with you again without following the instasext safe guidelines you both pressed “I Agree” once. If you think it’s stupid, come up with a solution that wouldn’t offend your partner or make him/her look silly.

See the Reference, Then Elaborate

You can pretend to be anyone, but if you find it hard to come up with the solution, this is where you might take off.

● Hitchhiker/driver
● Delivery person/customer
● Professor/student
● Stripper/client
● Porn stars
● Strangers at a bar
● Dominant/submissive
● Uniformed service worker/civilian
● Chef/server
● Massage therapist/client
● Voyeur
● Royalty/servant

Remember That It’s Just a Play

One of the key things to really enjoy role-playing with your partner is to understand that what happens may have nothing to do with reality. What do we mean? We mean that your roles might not be always politically correct or you will use non-politically correct vocabulary even though it goes in contrast to your beliefs in real life. And that’s ok as long as it lasts for a set time in this very particular context. Because you know what? Maybe the bed is the only space where you shouldn’t be ashamed of having fantasies, as once they’ve revealed, they stop bothering you. And what are we looking for if not the closest to the ultimate freedom?

One last thing. Role-playing isn’t for everyone, and in case your partner doesn’t feel the vibe, don’t insist. There are many other things to spike the sexual interest that doesn’t relate to temporary acting.