Will girls feel extreme pain during their first time having sex? If not, what does that indicate?

Regarding this topic, many people would habitually answer: "Isn't it about breaking the hymen that causes bleeding and pain?" But in fact, such an understanding is too superficial!

In reality, the thin membrane in the middle of the female genitalia, professionally called the "vaginal corona", consists of a circular fold made up of a small amount of capillaries and nerve tissues. The vaginal corona usually has small holes, allowing menstrual blood to flow through during a woman's period. If the vaginal corona is completely sealed, it is instead considered a condition - "imperforate hymen", which would cause menstrual blood to accumulate, making sexual activity more difficult.

Therefore, unless a girl has a relatively thick vaginal corona, rupturing it during her first time may cause slight pain, but it would not be particularly painful, nor would it necessarily lead to bleeding. Whether the hymen ruptures or not cannot determine if the girl is a "virgin" or not. More likely, it is because the sexual activity was too rough, leading to an unpleasant first experience for both parties.

Then why do many girls still feel painful during their first sexual experience?

According to literature, the most common reasons are that the girl is too nervous, insufficiently aroused, and the male is too forceful.

If we consider intercourse as both a physiological response and an emotional experience, when a girl feels fear and anxiety, it causes the tightening of muscles around the vagina. This condition is called "vaginismus". In severe cases, the muscles around the vaginal opening contract, become smaller or tightly closed, which makes penetration very difficult. At this time, gentle psychological counseling must be provided first to help the girl relax, rather than forcing penetration, so as to avoid psychological trauma.

In addition, women who have given birth vaginally are also more likely to experience "pelvic floor dysfunction", manifested as pain during intercourse. This is because during pregnancy, the increased abdominal pressure places extra burden on the pelvic floor. During childbirth, if the baby is too large or if birth is difficult, it may also cause injury to the pelvic floor fascia and muscles, leading to reduced elasticity. As a result, the incidence of painful intercourse after childbirth increases significantly, which requires cooperation between both husband and wife, rather than blaming the individual woman.

Whether or not a girl will feel pain during her first time has no direct connection to the breaking of her hymen. Many sexually experienced women may face the same problems.

According to literature, the incidence rate of pain during intercourse is between 1.5% and 70%, with nearly half of women having at least one painful sexual experience.

This is mainly because the nature of sexual activity is the mutual friction between reproductive organs. If the woman feels tense and uneasy, and natural lubrication secretion is insufficient, then intercourse without adequate lubrication is like forcibly pushing a wooden plug into a cave, which can easily damage the vaginal tissue and cause discomfort.

Therefore, whether a girl feels pain during her first time has little correlation with whether it is her first time or not, it is more related to factors such as mental preparation, physiological response and the sexual activity approach. Both parties need to be fully considerate and gentle in order to make the first time a beautiful memory.