Well mate, perhaps what I have to tell you is not exactly what you'd wanna hear. But I'm old enough as to know pretty well what I'm gonna tell you right now. This all comes from experience. Past, present and futures' experiences. All of them invariably are the same.

Things happen exactly as they have to happen. And we must consider ourselves highly fortunate when they happen at the right time naturally. Nothing comes simply from nothing. And there are always 'previous' reasons for these to happen when they suddenly happen spontaneously.

These new experiences are precisely those that give us the opportunity to reflect calmly, deeply and conscientiously on things that we wouldn't otherwise see under the daily pressures of habit and routine.

And I promise you, that these new experiences will be highly energizing, invigorating and healing once you have been able to analyze them away from the proverbial and hypnotic routine. Regardless of the eventual outcomes. Wistfully, wishfully or otherwise.

Simply because under the usual repetitive routines replete of habits, we mostly are unable to find the time to actually stop, stay still and stare slowly & closely how far we have arrived or where the hell we are standing in our life at a given moment.

And you are certainly not the only one who has passed, is going through or will go through this. This is all simple law of life in a couple's life. You will simply get over it in no time and surely come out strengthened from all this. Right now, no wonder you can't see it. Neither your wife or your son either. But no doubt it's exactly the way it is.

So, no matter what, rest assured that each one of you will see things more clearly as soon you are aware that neither of you are immortal. Regardless of whether the path to follow may well be continuing alone or accompanied. :)