I agree there is nothing special about love. And that magic doenst exist. I dont agree, on the other hand, that in order to grow up you should ignore your "mammal fellings". In fact, love and kindness can be explained by evolution. They are real and they are part of the experience of Being human. Ignoring them is like ignoring the fact that you are alive saying "Im just alive because an irrational instint to not die". All the "illusions" of humanaty are real in the sence that we are stuck to Our human condition.