Mom has trouble

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My mom is a Buddhist. She joins many Wechat groups to study Buddhism with other Buddhists together. She used to be very happy and fulfilled, but recently she was a little bit upset. It seemed something was bothering her. I didn’t know what was going on until tonight.

My mom has been studying and praying with her Wechat friends for few years, sounds like she has problem to get along with one woman in the group and thus she decided to quit the group. But this woman just couldn’t let go. She has been distracting my mom a lot. She keeps on sending my mom invitation after my mom quitted her group, and on each of the invitation message, the words got escalated and became really nasty. My mom was very troubled by her message and didn’t know what to do. She didn’t tell me about this as she was hoping that the women would stop.

I finally noticed that my mom has been acting strange recently, and asked her what has happened. Finally, she told me about her situation, I suggested her to blacklist that women, and to make sure that my mom won’t be distracted again by her, I did it for her.

To be honest, I was surprised to find out that this type of thing would have had happened. In the spirit of Buddhism, one is supposed to be calm and disciplined. If you want to leave the group, it’s at your own discretion. Everybody has the freedom to decide what they want to do, if they want to stay in the group or quit. Nobody should say anything bad against it. Obviously that woman doesn’t really understand the spirit of the Buddhism. One of the spirit of Buddhism is no hatred of others. You should not judge other people’s behavior, and not even mention about cursing or bullying them. That’s totally wrong. I am hoping that this woman can study harder and starts to respect other people more.

I wish my mom can go back to peace and won’t be bothered by this misbehavior. I encourage and support her to have believing and find her peace. My mom’s heart was empty for years since my father passed away, she was silent and didn’t speak much. Buddhism seems to be the answer and has opened her mind again. I can tell the changes in her before and after she started to have this believing. I see her become more positive, optimistic and outgoing. I want her to stay happy. I asked her to forget about this drama and stay focus with her Buddhism study. My mom’s a very nice person and always treats people the way she wants to be treated. She couldn’t control other people’s behavior, so she did the right thing to delete that woman’s contact and leave her group.

I am really proud of my mom. She only went to first grade in the school, but since she joined the Buddhism study, she taught herself a lot words and is very fluent in the Buddhism book. Learning Buddhism is a long journey, along the way, there will be many drama and things that you don’t expect, she may face similar things again in the future as all people are different. But this is also a way for her to learn and grow. She lived in an isolated world before, now it’s time to step out and embrace the world, and it includes all the good and bad things together. She will be stronger and find her way in pursuing her believing.

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