The art of being alone

The art of being alone

Learning to be alone and choose to do so is the main way to get to know each other and relate with others in the best possible way. Despite the fact that society often suggests that loneliness is synonymous with isolation, and consequently causes fear and embarrassment. But how can he get so much scared? Because let's say it, to use a term not very orthodox, in the eyes of others loneliness is to be disfigured. Because apparently it is much better to go hand in hand with superficial and unsatisfactory relations, but to show how well we are in the group that we cannot be our best company.

Being alone also forces us to come to terms with our limits, which for some people are more intrusive than resources. Of course, man is a social animal and he certainly needs to interact with others. But what we care about is that, in order not to stay with ourselves at the end of the day, we risk being satisfied with anyone else. There is, in fact, a lack of common thinking about the idea that being alone does not mean being lacking in something, but complete people capable of forging relationships that enrich, not just empty empties, but that we have never really thought seriously about the advantages of being able to stand alone?

There are different ways to live loneliness well, for example by spending moments reading, dedicating oneself to activities that are passionate, traveling, undertaking any activity that corresponds to taking care of oneself giving mental and physical wellbeing.Whoever can't keep spaces of solitary autonomy is bound to bind himself to others as if they were crutches, loneliness becomes painful at a time when we feel incapable of caring for ourselves, when we believe that others are better at adhering to this task.

It is true that having someone next to us gives you security, but we should be the main source of that security. Let us therefore bear in mind that there is a big difference between being alone and feeling alone. Feeling alone is an intimate condition that is saddened and often lived without hope because it does not relieve even in the presence of others. The best cure against the sense of loneliness is to learn to be alone in a true and deep relationship with oneself, which often, even in the midst of the frenetic daily rhythms, leads to the search for a positive loneliness, which in reality can prove to be the best of the companies.

Therefore, if we give a negative meaning to loneliness, we risk living it badly, suffering it and fearing it, sometimes to the point of totally rejecting it. This is often the prelude to go in search of compensatory and unhealthy companies that can lead to dependent relationships, fuelling feelings of inadequacy and emptiness, since let us remember that the only person who will always be in our company is us, from the beginning to the end, for this reason I believe so much in the pleasure and duty to cultivate the ability to be alone.