Things you should never say to your partner | I am warning you
When it comes to a relationship, a lot of things happen. It is quite easy to start a relationship, but maintaining it is another story entirely.
In the course of the relationship, there will be times when issues will crop up and either you or your partner may get angry. Everyone gets angry now and again, but how you deal with this emotion is crucial to the success of your relationship.
The way you handle anger will dictate whether or not your relationship has a future. This is why it is never a good thing for you to have a short fuse as it could make you say hurtful words which you don’t mean. But alas! You’ve said the words and they could never be taken back.
Even though you finally calm down and apologies have been exchanged, those cruel words will never be forgotten, and this could have dire consequences for the future of the relationship.
The following words or sentences should never be uttered in the heat of the moment:
I am tired of you.
I hate you!
Everybody goes through trying times in life, and most especially when you are in a relationship. But when it relates to your partner, verbalizing the situation could be misinterpreted. Your partner may assume that they are the problem behind your non-achievement of your ambitions or goals in life and this can be demeaning.
Words like these almost always signal the end of the relationship as it shows that you don’t care anymore.
You are devil.
Calling your partner names such as devil, prostitute, and other unprintable words are sure to kill off any relationship. Name-calling shows that your partner has no integrity whatsoever and no one who is that degraded is likely to forget anytime soon.
You should be like this person.
No one likes to touch a hot iron rod, comparing your partner to another person is akin to touching a hot iron rod. Do not compare your partner to another person of the same gender, especially if the person in question is someone that both you and your partner know.
If that individual has done well in life, comparing your partner to such a person will only indicate that you view your partner as a failure by not reaching or exceeding your expectations. Another statement that could be as damning as the former is ‘My ex is better than you!’
Words like that have been known to end relationships abruptly without any hope of salvaging it. This is why you must never compare your partner with your ex-, no matter what.
Other comments such as:
Are you going to eat all that?
Shut up!
As it was mentioned earlier, maintaining a relationship is not an easy feat. Bridling your tongue, especially when you are in a foul mood is very crucial. Therefore, it is vital to ensure that you don’t say insensitive words to your partner whenever you are angry or have a fall out with your partner.
Yes you are right @jwolf it's easy to start a relationship but maintaining relationship is bit difficult. You have to be very careful especially when you are in anger mode, I think in this situation it's better to be silent for a while, when you think now you calm down then start conversation again.
Your's suggestions are very useful to maintain a good relationship, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@jwolf You nailed it right on the head. Hurtful words and negative comparism of your partner are two key issues you mentioned that are relationship destroyers.
Other things that easily destroy relationships are disdain or lack of respect for your partner, lies, and inattention. These are equally bad for the good health of relationships. Thanks for your incisive perspective.
Any relationship must be built on trust.
Another Sentence you shouldn't say to your partner.
‘‘I wish things were how they used to be.’’
Ahh come on, we've all said it. When you're going through a rough patch or a bit of a tricky time, it's hard not to reminisce about the honeymoon period where you were banging 24/7 and having just one giant laugh together. "We cannot relive or recreate the past, so this type of statement is NEVER helpful. It also creates a sense of longing, yearning and wishful thinking, which devalues the positive aspects of the current relationship, and corrupts and restricts it’s future growth," David says.
Say this instead: "With all our wonderful times and fantastic history, we can create a better future for ourselves" or "Let’s work together and use all the lessons we have learnt, so we never make those same mistakes again."
no pain no gain..
sometimes you will get a lot of pain in relationship, but what you gain That is "LOVE"...
I have noted all, I will need this in near future :)
I agree! I never even thought to say something like this... :)
good topic
Great post, I'm sorry for any harmful words I have spoken
You are right, any relationship must be built on trust first and on accepting the other
There is a beautiful anger that can be forgiven and that comes from jealousy
That is so true, the words can hurt more than we think, to be into a relationship is not easy at all. Great post! Gracias por compartir!