Are you poly or otherwise ethically non-monogamous? If so, how did you discover you preferred these types of relationships?

in #relationships6 years ago (edited)

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I'm going poly but I must admit, it isn't something I originally wanted to do.

I used to be the hopeless romantic from a Christian background. I dreamt of happiness with the one true love of my life. Reality taught me different.

After getting involved in relationships, I see it now. Humans aren't essentially monogamous. It's just something we've been taught. The human spirit wants to explore.

Well, I've decided to follow the trend for a while and see where it leads. If I don't like it, I'll reconsider monogamy

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So do you mean that you are unable to remain monogamous or that the people you date are often non-monogamous? I am consdiering this myself because I am tired of the breakups from serial monogamy. Like, I just am coming to accept that nobody wants me for a serious long term relationship. Maybe if I wasn't monogamous it wouldn't be so heartbreaking when a relationship ends.

Honestly, that's the way I feel (or felt)

My girlfriend and I had a chat, a few hours after I posted the reply.

She said she didn't plan to hurt me and all.

The thing is, she finds it easy to kiss and spend long hours with other guys in her apartment (something that doesn't apply in a monogamous relationship). Don't ask me what they do together. I confronted her about it and she said I should grow up. That no one has an issue with it.

Well, I decided that since it was the way the world works, I should stick with it. A friend has been hitting on me for a while now. She has a boyfriend so I have issues sleeping with her. After the quarrelling two days ago, I decided to check out this friend (and then decided against it at the last minute)

Well, my girlfriend is back. I'll watch her behavior for a while. If she continues seeing other guys, I'm going shake off my monogamy and see what's special about changing partners

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