The Cost In Every Relationship
In every single relationship there is a cost. The amount of time we put in, the energy, and other resources. Because we don't have an unlimited amount of time, energy, and other resources available to us, it's important to be wise about where we invest our time. And being cautious about how we are spending our time is the first step to investing it wisely.
If someone told you to spend $1000 on whatever you wanted, you might spend that money different than had they told you to invest $1000 on whatever you wanted.
Spending time (just as with money) implies that there isn't much thought to it, and that you will spend it on something you don't hope to get any sort of big return from down the road.
Investing your time, as with money, is much different and much more calculated.
We invest time in raising our children, in cultivating strong work relationships, in building trust with new people we meet. There are many ways that we can invest our time and energy toward relationships and other activities, and we might not see or realize the benefits that we are reaping for many years to come.
Like with going to the gym, or trying to eating healthy, sometimes the progress is very slow.
In order to be sure that we are being wise with our investment in others, we need to be willing to lose the relationship that isn't giving us what we need. If a relationship is more trouble than benefit, if it is toxic and decreasing the standard of living for us, then there seems more benefit to ending it rather than sustaining it.
Sometimes it's either lose the relationship with the person, or suffer the cost of losing your own self.
There are many times when people are willing to make the sacrifices for the relationship, they are willing to humble themselves to try and co-exist peacefully with others. But it is important to remember what the cost is to every relationship that we have.
Because when we take the time to reflect on this, it might help you to quickly realize what is worth the price and what isn't.
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Nice post! I love the analogy of spending vs investing time. I had been putting a lot of effor tinto this in my own life but never quite had the words for what I was doing. Now that you have provided the words and definitions, it will be much easier for me to see the bigger pictures. Fabulous stuff and a grand example of the superb quality of content I've been devouring on Steemit in my first week here!
thanks for the kind words!
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sweet! :) thanks!
I agree with you. Spending time looks like investing money. I have understood it after 35 years old.
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Nice and interesting post! I agree with the statement: "You gotta stop watering dead plants". :)