The Cankerworm called CHEATING (Part 2)
Hello lovely people,
We have to embrace that our lives is not ordinary. I will continue with our last discussion so I can meet up with the effects of Cheating in relationships and marriage.
You will lose your standard of living
Depending on what you do for a living, you may lose your job. Many lose their home. Most end up with enormous court fees since cheating is usually the precursor to divorce. Betrayed spouses have a way of making you pay and that payment is always expensive. Every check you write is a constant reminder of your
foolishness.
You will spend years trying to rebuild your life
Literally years. Even if you somehow you weathered the storm financially, you will find it takes years for you to recover emotionally. It takes years for you to restore certain friendships, if you even do, It takes years for you to rebuild your character. It
takes years to rebuild trust. It takes years to truly forgive yourself.
You will lose relationships
You will lose a LOT of relationships. Some Lifelong
friends will walk away. Close friends that you have helped countless times will not be around to help you. Even some family members who are supposed to love you no matter what will vanish. A cheater when
caught can end up living a very lonely life. It's hard for many people who used to call you friend to get past that skunk smell of disappointment.
You will increase your chances of getting an STD.
Sexually transmitted diseases run rampant
among promiscuous people. But your paramour is "clean," right? After all, they told you so. And if there is one thing we all know – we can trust a cheater and their word...an irony indeed. As the saying goes,
" here is honor among thieves." One helpful thought may be to assume that everyone but
your spouse has an STD.That should curb your
appetite for destruction.
The grass is not greener on the other side
The "grass is greener" idea is a common misconception. Because we have never been on that grass, we assume it must be better than where we
currently stand.
It's not. In fact, though it may look greener from a distance – once you get there and make yourself comfortable something interesting
happens – the grass changes color. This usually happens soon after you get caught.
You will then see that patch of land differently
You will also have a strange desire for the green grass you once left… except now it is burned and won't let you back. The best way to enjoy green grass is to water your own yard. Would you want this done to
you? Thieves like to steal wallets but hate when it's done to them.
If we all lived by the Golden Rule ("Treat others the way you want to be treated.") most of life's problems would be solved overnight. Think about this action as if it were being done to you. The problem is that the required thought and thinking is often the last thing a cheater has on his/her mind.
You will eventually regret this decision
In the heat of the moment, cheating appears to make sense. It feels good and sometimes even feels right. Feelings are deceitful. Soon afterward, your eyes will be opened and you will regret that you ever
partook of the forbidden fruit.
Don't we all have enough regrets in our lives? Why add another one.
Most people that cheat always live in regret but can't help being a slave to passion. I believe the reasons above will help to keep you in check.
