'What If': The killer of promising relationships

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Relationship is one of the most complex things to understand in the world. This is an institution that no one is an expert. Those who counsel on relationship have relationship problems they hide from the public.

Have you ever wondered why those we call 'spiritual' fathers and mothers get divorced? Or why those who counsel married couple divorce their husbands or wives?

Perhaps, this is a testament to the fact that when the question of relationship is raised, no one should assume an alpha position because in reality, it is a mystery and one that hunt every being.

My writeup today is on relationship and my query is on the 'what if' questions that often disturb spouse from enjoying their relationship.

Often time, ladies filled their brains with the question of what if. In the end, they end up chasing fantasy and leaving the reality behind.

An average woman is often poised with the question:

What if he changes?
What if he stops loving me?
What if he stops enjoying sex with me?
What if he gets tired of everything i do?
What if i am not the best for him?
What if he loves someone else?
What if he's just using me?
What if i become a burden to him?

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These questions above and many other questions not raised filled some ladies brains and in the process, they forget the real deal. In the end, most choose to live life they want and care less about whether the man's happiness is affected or not.

Future, i always say is unknown. While you believe that he loves you, care for you and wants you, why not let the 'what if' be?

This doesn't show that you are trying to be a rational being. You are only trying to foresee and unknown and uncertain future.

You don't need to be bothered by what he sees in you and love now. Be bothered instead about what you can you do to make him feel the same way. 'What if' changes nothing!

Change is constant no doubt. While anticipating that change, you will be surprised that you lose him in the process but because it happened, you would still conclude that your 'doubts' were true after all. In reality, you lose him while you were caught up in illusion and fantasy.

Understanding that you might also change, stop loving him and many other 'doubts' might help you focus on what must be done instead of worrying on what might not be undone.

Live life, enjoy your relationship and leave doubts out of it. It will do you good.