Karmic marriage.

In this article you will learn:
Which marriage is considered karmic;
Signs of karmic marriage;
Two finals of karmic marriage.

Family relationships are not always cloudless. We often ask psychologists about the reasons for misunderstanding and discord. And if there is another explanation? And here it is not so important what we did to each other in a previous life, what sins we pay, what debts we pay or we receive ... It is more important to understand what to do if our marriage looks like karmic ...

The concept of “karma” came to us from the East, although our folk proverbs very well reflect the essence of this concept: “When you sow, you will reap”, “As soon as it comes around, it will respond” ... Many of our meetings with people in everyday life far from accidental, but caused by our actions in past incarnations.

Experience shows that there can be many such karmic encounters in a lifetime. Coming into this world, we find ourselves surrounded by people who help us realize our karmic tasks. Usually these are our parents, marriage partners, children, friends, relatives, superiors, work colleagues. In this series, the karmic relations of a man and a woman are often of the greatest interest. They are understood as relations between partners who knew each other in past lives and experienced strong feelings, and at the same time they were left with some debts to each other. When meeting such people very often there is a feeling that they seem to know each other for a very, very long time ...

What kind of marriage is considered karmic?
One of the signs of karmic relationships is when he or she, or maybe both, carry within themselves such unresolved emotional states as jealousy, anger, guilt, fear, and dependence. Having failed to find once a constructive way out, partners are attracted to one another and in the next incarnation. The purpose of the new meeting is to provide each other with the opportunity to resolve a pressing issue. This happens by recreating the same situation for a certain period of time.

Having met again, karmic partners feel an urgent need to become closer to each other and after some time they begin to repeat the old scenario of their relationship, reliving the old emotions and feelings. Thus, they get a chance to deal with the same situation in a wiser way.

The spiritual goal of this meeting for both lovers is to make a different choice and to display the highest qualities - humility, acceptance, compassion, self-sufficiency, willpower, ability to control instinctive impulses, etc. What kind of quality is being developed can be understood from the type of karmic connection.

The following situations serve as an indicator of karmic marriage:

The marriage happened unexpectedly for the environment or both partners. The surprise is that these partners can be completely different in character, temperament, differ in social and material status, have a big age difference.
Relationships are marked by a certain fatality and predestination, for example, in a love-hate situation, when it seems that the partners have been fighting among themselves all their life and still cannot do without each other, or when there is little change in the relationship, they seem to rush according to a strictly defined program. Fate simply constantly brings partners together, whether they want it or not. A vivid example is the heroes of the film "The habit of getting married."
Long term alcohol or drug addiction of the marriage partner. Apparently, such a “marriage-punishment” is unconsciously chosen by one of the partners. Probably due to a hidden guilt - in a previous life, the “good” partner was in the role of a problem partner, that is, everything was the other way around, and now justice is just being restored.
The absence of children in the family. This is an indicator of the closeness of the future for both births through these people (after all, marriage is not only a union of a couple, but also a union of childbirth). Such relationships are closed on themselves and serve to comprehend by both partners their own character traits and qualities that should not be passed on to the next generation. In a sense, this marriage can be called a "short circuit." As a rule, it is eventually (after years or even almost immediately) terminated. The future of this karmic connection depends on how much each partner was “correct” in his actions. If the partners “correctly” (not from the point of view of morality, but from the point of view of Destiny and Higher Laws) showed themselves in these relations, for example, they did not curse and accuse each other of infertility, but adopted a child from an orphanage, then this couple later a joint child may appear. If only one of the partners tried to behave “correctly”, but did not receive support, life will give him another partner, from whom he will have children.

The partners are in the role-playing triangle “Chaser” - “Victim” - “Savior”, described by the famous psychologist Eric Bern. Moreover, the “Victim” voluntarily marries the “Persecutor”, gives birth to children from him and for a long time experiences humiliation and insults.
Any problems with the health of the marriage partner in the future (life with a person in a wheelchair, mentally ill or early - up to 40 years - death of the partner). In this kind of relationship, partners often show the highest qualities, experience states of true care and love that would not have manifested themselves in a more prosperous situation. A vivid illustration of such a relationship can serve as the film "Autumn in New York" and "Diary of Remembrance."
A marriage is created not only unexpectedly, but also quickly, followed by a move to another city or even abroad, and at the same time family ties are broken.
Marriage arises after a short period of acquaintance (week, month) - as if something from above “opened” eyes to each other. Such relationships are often marked by a “trance effect." They begin in such a way that a person is not fully aware of the changes that have occurred and only after a year or more begins to perceive the situation soberly and consciously. Prior to this, they are driven by reactions, which he is not able to explain to the end.
The Two Finals of Karmic Marriage
Usually, the farther such relationships go, the more karmic tension builds up, and as a result the pair breaks up. Theoretically, such a marriage can be extended, including until the end of life, but only if both partners move to a different level of relationship.

This means paying attention to the psychological side of the relationship, controlling your reactions and understanding your actions more deeply. With this approach, the couple begins to become aware of those “buttons”, the reasons that create the majority of internal and external problems, and in the future, each of the partners changes deeply internally. But this level of marriage is very rare.

Such relationships can be called healing. Their distinguishing features:

People love and respect each other for who they are, it gives them great pleasure to be with each other, but they do not experience anxiety, jealousy or loneliness when the partner is not around. In such relationships, you offer your loved one understanding and support without trying to solve his or her problems that have arisen in this life or brought from past incarnations.
Relationships are filled with freedom and peace. Of course, sometimes there is a misunderstanding, but the emotions caused by it are short-lived. Both partners are ready to forgive.
Between them there is a heart connection.
Emotionally, both partners are independent. He or she does not fill in the gap or void in his life, but rather adds something new, important, vital, inspired.
And if in your relationship there is a lot of tension, suffering and tears, but you are not able to break them, try to understand that nothing obliges you to remain with that person. Strong emotions are more often related to deep suffering, and not to mutual love. The energy of love is not so emotional, it is not oppressive, not exhausting and not tragic - it is extremely bright, calm and serene, joyful and inspiring.
Any relationship is given to us for the development of our own personality and soul, in order to become loving, free and creative beings.