Should couples try to live together before marriage?

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With this question, i would Say yes and No. Honestly depending in circumstances surrounding your relationship.

To support my Yes answer, i really would not say live together, as in cohabiting, but i would encourage some kind of familiarization with each other. Here is my reason why, based on a true story.

A young couple decided not to engage physically with each other, untill the night of their wedding. The man had strongly insisted and stood his ground on this., the lady had to adhere to her fiance's wish. This means they avoided being alone and always met in public places.

On the night of the wedding, while trying to do the marital act, the lady came to a shocking reality that was the size of her husband's mister.

It wasn't only small, but almost non existent, and that is when he also came clean of his selfish intentions of hiding this truth from her untill the night of the wedding, it was already too late for her to turn back on her "untill death do us part", she had to live with her husband who was not only able to perform his duty as a man but also impotent, the woman was denied that right. Had she known this prior to the marriage, she would have had a choice to make . In Africa, when you are married, you are MARRIED, no leaving your husband's house even if you are dying. She is in agony

To argue from the other side of the coin, living together tends to make people a littlenbit comfortable and not think of doing the actual marriage, after all, they are already living together. This can not sit well with the womans family, , especially in an African setting.

There are alot of things too that tend to happen when living together that might make marriage impossible, such as being reluctant in ones appearance and generally being over comfortable in the relationship that will make the spark fade before marriage even happens.