Relationships: Can Someone Fear Human Contact If They Had An Intrusive Caregiver?

One thing that someone could often struggle with is feeling alone and isolated from others. During this time, they could be desperate for human contact and hope that they will soon spend time with another or a few others.

However, if this was to take place, it doesn't mean that their whole being would show up around another. In other words, their physical self will be there but it doesn't mean that their emotional self will be there.

An Analogy

This is then similar to one being extremely hungry and only having a starter at a restaurant as opposed to a three-course meal. Undoubtedly, it is better than nothing but it won't leave them feeling full.

If anything, it will just take the edge of their hunger (loneliness) and it won't be long until they go back to how they were before. They will have had their fast food and now they can go back to how they were before.

Hidden

In order for them to receive the nutrients that they need, it will be necessary for their emotional self to also show up. Naturally, this will allow them to fill a number of their needs.

Along with this, it will also allow them to fully show up, not simply play a role. This is what is likely to happen when they are around another, with them becoming who they think another wants them to be.

The False Self

They may come across as easy-going, happy and submissive during this time. By being this way, they will act more like an extension of another than a separate being that has their own needs, feelings and wants.

Considering this, for them to be connected to themselves, it might be necessary for them to be in their own company. If this is the case, being by themselves is not going to be very fulfilling and neither is being around another.

Two Options

This could be something that they are not aware of or it could be something that they are fully aware of. If they are aware of it, they could be sick and tired of feeling so lonely and losing themselves around others.

They could end up getting to the point where, as lonely as it is, they prefer to be by themselves. This will be painful but it will stop them from having to put on an act around others.

A Strange Scenario

What should be normal is for them to feel comfortable in their own company and comfortable when they are around others. This would allow them to connect to who they are regardless of it they were alone or not.

What this would do is enable them to have deeper relationships with others and to experience intimacy. As when it comes to intimate relationships, this is likely to be another area of their life that causes them a lot of problems.

A Closer Look

When they start to spend time with someone, they are likely to hide who they are as they do in other relationships. Still, this can be a time when they are so relieved to experience human contact with someone to who they are attracted.

But, as time goes go and more is naturally expected from them, they could soon have the need to retract. This could be because the other has started to share their feelings and wants them to do the same and/or simply because they are developing a stronger bond.