Having And Living A Healthy Relationship: Never Allow Your Past Relationship(s) Affect Your Present One!!

Love is a beautiful thing. It's a feeling that can't really be explained, no matter how hard we try. But, what happens when that, "strange magic" is betrayed.

There are unpleasant results that comes, when projecting a past relationship unto a current one. It's like re-living a dream, that was long forgotten. The past, is never pleasant and dwelling on past memories and experiences can have major effects in our present, if given the opportunity.
We consciously know, that replaying the tape of the past and projecting it onto our current partner doesn't feel right neither is it healthy.

We do know that it doesn't feel right to to replay the past and projecting t it into our present. There are two vital reasons, that we might feel tempted to curb this tendency:

1. Your Joy Is Bleaked:
   Pure joy is never found in the dark. Pure joy can only be experienced in the present moment. Joy can't be felt when worrying about the past or future. And often, if we are comparing our partner to the "last one," we are not appreciating the present. Hereby restricting the joy.

2. Old Relationships Is Harmful, because It Hurts Your Growth With Your Current Partner:
   Living in the present and experiencing new levels of intimacy with your current partner, will enable your relationship reach a full potential, dwelling in the past will hinder it.
   Comparing your partners actions with that of the previous, would lead to distrust. The past is the past..

But it's time for us to figure out, vital steps thats to be taken in other to release our grip on previous situation.

HONOUR THE LOVE AND THE LESSONS YOU, VE LEARNED

Sometimes, it's truly really hard to live in the present, especially when the last relationship was positive, because you feel like you are dishonouring the good that came from your last love.
Rather, like feel like you must completely disregard the lessons and the love that were shared, it's wise to acknowledge and value the good times that you had.

Committing to someone new doesn't mean you can't appreciate the good times and lessons learned with your past partners(s). Love for one does not have to erase out the love you once had for another.
On the other hand while dwelling in a current relationship, that's actively romantic and comparing strengths with your last partner is not healthy. It's not about maintaining a love affair or keeping scores between partners. It's about allowing your past to fully exist as a part of yourself, that informs and wholly enriches your life.

VOICING YOUR FEARS

Sharing your fears and re-occuring thoughts to someone, who can help can process your emotions and view things from your perspective will prove helpful. This could be a counsellor, a caring friend, a therapist and especially a family member. As for me!!! A mothers are preferable.

Enclosing something that's hurtful and struggling with, becomes stronger and more powerful in our lives. By sharing g our thoughts and concerns out in the open, we are allowing ourselves to see our internal dialogue in a new light.

Talking to your current partner about your fears can prove helpful when done carefully and tactfully. Finally, you and your current partner deserves complete attention and loyalty from each other in other to reach the fullest potential and learn this lessons this relationship has to give.

Thanks for visiting my blog today. Until my next post. I remain loyal and to contribute imensely to these community of great people. ☝️☝️@misterbauchi