Is it okay to promise marriage to anyone just because you’re into a relationship?

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Hello friends, it’s another interesting topic yet again, I remember vividly how I was fearful that he might leave me and marry another woman, does that mean that he didn’t love me enough or could that be that I didn’t trust him enough?

I was so afraid and unsure what our relationship will metamorphos into, this uncertainty bugged my spirit for long, as people say; as a belief lasts longer, it gradually turns to a tradition. Girls of our time love to be sure, we want to understand from the beginning the end of relationship that we’re into, we love to have his word, we love to hear him say this word ‘I will marry you.

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To hear what you want to hear is not enough

It doesn’t cost a man or a woman to promise whoever that cares to hear that ‘I will marry you, that’s a common statement, yet even as it’s common, it’s carries some weight of trust and confidence which was what I expected from him at least!

Is it better to promise marriage to someone when you’re not properly ready for marriage?

Well, I’ll leave this question open to the public, not withstanding, I’ll say my mind, during my early time in relationship with my husband before our marriage, as a lady, I desired for such words of hope due to the love I have for him, I didn’t want to lose him for any reason.

But he never promised me that, neither did he make my feel that way, but before that time, I know that people do promise themselves marriage, sometimes they keep to the promise, and at some other times they give up.

Therefore for me, I’ll say that it’s an individual thing though if I were a man, I’ll do like my husband did.

The bloody oaths

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Generally, this ritual is almost seen in every culture and people, blood covenant is believed to be a solemn affirmation with a concrete binding measures that involved blood of the concerned.

Many believe that this promise ritual is highly spiritual which may result to misfortunes and eventually death of course, if broken.

When it comes to a blood covenant, the game obviously becomes an expensive one, yet people love it that way especially when those people are engrossed with love.

But no one knows tomorrow, sometimes events can unfold that counters those promises and oaths, then it becomes a struggle and a bondage for the involved in such an expensive contract.

Can marriage oaths and promises put someone in bondage?

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This is where I’ll leave the table for everyone, what do you think, should people continue with marriage oaths, promises, and covenants to secure their proposed marriage even when they’re not ready yet to get into marriage?

Some believe that it’s not okay as it’s an easy way to bondage and heart breaking situations.

We nearly lost a cousin sister who was deeply in love with his male friend, they promised marriage to each other, but after on, it happened than an event unfolded with the two families especially from the man’s side vowed over their dead bodies should they allow their son to marry our cousin sister, that led to their separation which made our cousin to suffer a great emotional illness that almost took her life.

In conclusion

My advice

I strongly believe in times and seasons, don’t push things when it’s obviously not their time, make situations bearable for yourself, make friends, fall in love, but don’t be involved in any sort of silly act all in the name of securing a person for yourself.

Better things are always ahead.

Thanks for reading.

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