Heartbreak: A journey
Heartbreak is like an endless stream of rocks hurled at us, the pain, the victimization you feel when you see others in happy relationships can never be compared to anything. It's as is a loved one had been lost, even though you've indeed lost someone precious to the heart.
Almost everyone has gone through this phase and it is that point where you just have to suck up as much pain as you can yet you have to smile. You smile not because all is well, you smile because you have to be strong for others.
Never ending tears for a while becomes a companion to some, others cling to alcohol as their coping mechanism, some become introverts for a while and others become extremely social to dull the pain. Anytime I am toing through a heart break, I simply detach from the cause of it until I am strong enough to stand once more.
Believe me when I say I know how it feels to be heartbroken; the "how I wish" moments, the "what ifs". Moments like that, you wonder if you could have done anything about it.
There are two kinds of heartbreak;
- Those you see coming
- Those you don't see coming
They both have different ways in which they strike. The first kind inflicts so much pain as you sometimes try to stop it but sadly, you end up failing. It starts with something as little as persistent phone calls from the other person trying to take your partner away. You hear stuffs like "we are just friends so don't worry...trust me" but you know better. Before you know, they start demanding more and more attention from your partner until you start to show cracks, little cracks due to frustration but you have to trust. They start hanging out and you have to trust your partner. Little by little, they start to capitalize on your flaws and frustrate you so your partner can see those flaws. Being human, you react at some point and your partner starts to compare.
Before long, your partner becomes secretive and evasive and all attempts to rectify it ends in a deadlock. Feelings enter and before long, you're evicted from your own relationship.
The second one will break your heart after it happens and it takes a longer period of time for you to recover because it is unexpected. You suddenly just hear the lines; we need to talk and that is that on that!
However, people don't understand that heartbreak doesn't occur only when a relationship ends. It can happen even when you treat your partner far less than they deserve.
Sometimes after pushing your partner away, you realize that they are more important than you think.
I'll share a story when I was in school: a corper who was in a relationship for about six years with a guy. She served a few months before he did and suddenly felt he was no longer good enough after meeting other guys. She even went as far as asking him not to redeploy to her state of service because she wanted to enjoy her freedom with other people. She even broke up with the guy because she felt she had found love with a fellow corper. At the end of the day, the corper changed his number after service and dumped her and she had to go back to the first guy.
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I guess what doesn't kill us makes us stronger; If heartbreak doesn't kill you, it'll definitely make you wiser and stronger in your next relationship.
Nice post; YOU DESERVE SOME ACCOLADES FOR THIS POST.
Matters of the heart can sometimes be very complicated. Even a person you've never had an intimate or even a direct contact with can be heartbroken because of you...because you are leaving town, getting married, etc and like you said a little issue can make you forget all you've put into a relationship and suddenly take your partner for granted. I guess we should guard our hearts jealously. Nice post.
Sir, Your post has been very good so I like it very much. So I think I have to learn something from it.
Heart breaks are something that aren't pleasant to go through. We always think of things we could have done differently to avoid the break up.
We just have to move on if not do our own happiness, for the sake of those who care about us.
Have a wonderful week @ehiboss
@ehiboss u nailed it boss!. Heartbrake is not something befitting to every individuals but the fact is no matter how we try to play it safe we will surely get heartbroken one day. It's one of the challenges of life and it depends on how u react when you face such challenges. @ehiboss made this point and I quote
This are the act performed by them. Some even get to the point of committing suicide.
The fact is that we should always learn to be prepared for such circumstances, then we motivate ourselves and believe there is more goodness to come. Always believe what is meant for you will surely be yours irrespective of any circumstances, and what left us wasn't meant for us.
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This line resonates hard with me. Far too often I've seen my friends treat their significant others like trash. Surprisingly enough, they often don't notice they're doing it, and kick against the idea they're doing something wrong.
I've actually never given any thought to why that is though, but I will now.
Thanks for the inspiration, @ehiboss
This line resonates hard with me. Far too often I've seen my friends treat their significant others like trash. Surprisingly enough, they often don't notice they're doing it, and kick against the idea they're doing something wrong.
I've actually never given any thought to why that is though, but I will now.
Thanks for the inspiration, @ehiboss