DEAR YOUNG LADY

divaboss (41)in #relationship • 6 years ago

Valid to the moon ✌

Dear young lady.

Please always remember that I told you that not all broke guys are husband materials. Especially in the Nigerian society, it is prevalent to see many associate the appropriateness and husband compatibility of a man to the fact that he's broke. This is sham.

Not every broke guy is good.
Not every broke guy has a great future.
Not every broke guy has a vision.
Not every broke guy will make a wonderful husband.

Do not fall for their gimmicks and emotional blackmail, you can reject a broke man for many reasons, and you don't have to explain that you didn't reject him for his broke state.

They'd call you gold digger. Yes, because by all means people want to pity broke men. Whether they were good or bad, leaving a broke man means you're not a good woman.

Don't fall for it.
You'll leave some broke guys and they'd throw the popular line: “Nobody knows tomorrow.”
Sometimes, even when tomorrow comes, they'll still be broke, and you'll be happy you left.

Young lady, crosscheck your feelings for that broke man. Are you sure it's not pity and not love?
Many times women stick to men just because they are broke. Believing that in being broke lies virtue and hope, sometimes that miserable state is the best he'd have. Be careful, make sure you love him, not pitying him, and be mindful that you're not sticking to him because you won't want to make him feel you left because of his state.

Don't fall for this trap. I'm not saying be after a man's wealth. But as much as I advise you to not love a man because of his wealth, please don't love a man for his broke state either.

Always remember, not all broke men will succeed. Some are lazy. Broke men too can be violent, abusive, and have character issues.
Don't let the humility of his miserable financial state cloud your sense of reasoning.

Some men hide under the garb of their broke condition to attract women. Lol. It's laughable, but it's the truth that most often than not the society paints the broke man as the angel every woman needs, and the rich dude as evil, ritualist, yahoo guy, and abusive.