It Requires Maturity II, Contributed By @Olawalium.
…continued… from part 1
I still feel the lady is a bit honest which is an admirable trait. If she didn’t mention it, his to be husband wouldn’t have known. I can remember sharing a story about a lady whose ex showed up on her wedding day and this ex right in the middle of the union, stood up and advised the husband not to marry his ex because they still had sex the night before the wedding. I can remember telling people that she should have opened up to the husband rather than have him find out and it would be left to the man’s maturity on how to deal with it. Can we still remember that episode?
The same is applicable here. This lady we are discussing about here sensed what could happen on the wedding day and she doesn’t want her secret to be out in the open, so she decided to do the hard thing; confess. She confessed about it to the husband and as expected the guy flared up.
I think the major issue they have is communication. They are both dating each other because it is easy. It shouldn’t be easy. You have to sacrifice. They don’t have to be closer in the same city before they can communicate effectively. You can even be staying in the same city with your spouse yet you will feel like you are miles apart. Communication is important in relationship. It keeps external forces at bay and mends broken walls. They lack basic communication skills. You can be far from your spouse yet with calls, he or she will always feel the other person’s presence.
I also think sacrifice should have been another issue here. The guy is always busy, yes but that doesn’t mean he can’t make up for it anytime he is free. He decided to hide under the ‘busy’ tag for too long and now he allowed the crack into his home. I am not saying she is absolved in all of this, no, because no action would be considered blameless unless the will was so, for by the will, the act was dictated. She is too vulnerable and she allowed herself to be used. She felt there is a void to be filled and that is based on the fact that she is idle too.
…to be continued…
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The guy caused it, she made her do whats shes not suppose do, if she sacrifice his time by checking on his fiance, it may not happen
Hi @olawalium, Communication is important in maintaining a relationship. As it is already discussed in previous posts.i think lady needs to be strong at that point and man should show her favour.
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Yes, she is at the mercy of this guy right now. The guy is the only one that will show the direction this relationship will go. If he decides to leave because he couldn't trust her anymore, he should also pick the vital lesson in it, which is, communication is important.