Build Relationship II, Contributed By @Olawalium
…continued… from part 1
After a while when she finally found another man; a serious and ready to marry kind of man, I noticed she withdrew. She told me about the wedding only few weeks to and I didn’t even know when the introduction was done.
I felt bad and used because I felt the relationship was mutual and I classified her as a ‘user’ (people that use others to get what they want and then leave them), until I realized that my work was done with her.
I was in her life for that particular season to help her get through that period and when she was done with that period, I now understand there was nothing much of me for her to have around. I am not expected to play God in her life when my work was done. Most of the time we try to lord it over those whom we have been opportuned to help at a time; thinking they should always come around to pay homage to us but that is wrong.
You need to understand that some people are in your life for a season as you are in other people’s lives for a season too and when that season is over, you will just notice that you will naturally drift away. If you try to force that relationship, you will both end up hurting each other.
Categorize your relationships with people so that you won’t have unrealistic expectations. The extent to which you are exposed in a relationship will determine the extent to your vulnerability. When you understand everyone’s role in your life, it would be easier for you to understand their part and not unnecessarily feel aggrieved when they leave or when your work or their own work is done.
…to be continued…
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Olawalium; (Love’s chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor’s order.
Hmmm, when you understand people's part, it won't be strange when they choose to leave, at least you will know when their roles are over too...
Absolutely. We need to stop having that feeling of entitlement when we have helped someone. We need to know our work is done and simply move on to the next person that we can help.
It's as simple as that...
I always say this, people that come to your life for a particular reason or mission, once it is being accomplished, they leave and wait no more. But we as a person must be ready offer assistance, or counsel with the mind whether the person come to appreciate it or not, we really need to be pessimistic in some things in the life If we are not to meet with disappointment.
Yes, some people come into our lives for a season and also for some reasons. When we understand the "why", then it would be easy to deal with whatever eventuality arises. We need to always approach every friendship with a mind to help and not to lord it on others.
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