Why are there are plenty divorces in marriages these days?

Every relationship needs few things like devotion, mutual understanding, effective communication, mutual respect, trust and love. During the honeymoon period/initial period of love life, people are driven by their sex hormones which make them passionate about their love life but gradually the quantity of these hormones reduces and when they come over their fanciful life and see the reality, they begin to doubt on their decision. The things which was earlier the purpose of life, looks irrational and dull now. When one partner fails to satisfy a simple demand of his/her partner, other feels neglected and hurt because of it.

There are following reasons which are breaking the marriages:

• Lack of trust: These days people are becoming over possessive and jealous. They suspect their partner. They think their partner will dupe them so they begin to vandalize his/her privacy and sometimes their suspicion takes their partner away from them.

• Clash of egos: Ego should be kept aside to maintain a successful marriage. When one gives more importance to one’s ego, the relationship suffers. Skirmishes over trivial matters are the result of clash of egos.

• Busy life and long working hours: In modern times, people are becoming slave owing to their working conditions. They have long working hours and also it takes a lot of time in cities to travel back-and-forth office and home. So, it curtails the time for the partner.

• Over intervention of the elders: Sometimes parents of the husband or the wife become too careful to their son or daughter. They don’t hesitate to intervene in the personal matters of the husband and wife. Their unnecessary interference and over possessive behavior is also the reason of breaking the marriages. It also happen that the wife don’t like her husband to take care of his parents which may cause bitter arguments and ultimately divorce.

• Irrational behavior: Irrational and irresponsible behavior of one partner can irritate other partner. When one don’t listen to the other, a communication gap forms that may result in divorce.

• Over expectations: People see in movies and TV serials that couples are having a great time after marriages and they enjoy a rich life. It fills them with the notion that an ideal life should be like that. They have lots of expectations from their partners and when they don’t find their partners performance as per their expectations; they doubt their decision of marrying. Those over expectations are always detrimental to a healthy relationship.

• Too much time for social media: These days social media is also performing a role of villain in the married life of the people. People have lots of friends in social media platforms and they think it necessary to have a regular conversation with them. Everyone has a Smartphone in his/her hand and he/she spends a lot of time on using the net and interacting with virtual world friends which is weakening the bond between husband and the wife.

• Boring sexual life: When people see porn movies, they expect their partner to perform like the porn star but they forget that for porn stars, sexual act is only a means of living. They are not real couples. In fact they make a movie by taking lots of cuts and retakes but people don’t realize it. When they see their partner performing not according to their expectations, their confidence on them begins to shatter. Also, the artificial and busy city life is decreasing libido of men, which is also a reason of broken marriages.