Dont lazy around
"Whatever you do, never chase a man. Why? Because it'll make him emotionally lazy and he will feel like he doesn't have to do anything to meet your emotional needs.
"Think about it; if you are doing everything from the beginning, what is his incentive to do anything after you two get together? In the end, you'll find yourself assuming the proactive role throughout the relationship because that's what he'll be used to. He will have no reason to change because you'll have already shown him that he can do absolutely nothing and you will still be willing to do everything.