@jerrybanfield just out of curiosity, are you looking for answers as well or are you just posting so people can contemplate these things? For instance, on 1) this is because we are genetically wired through thousands and thousands of years of evolution to assess every single situation as a potential dangerous situation, triggering a "fight or flight" response. Back in the days these dangers were very real, wild animals, diseases, war, even weather conditions and it helped us to survive. Nowadays, most of us don't have these real dangers anymore but we're still wired the same way. So what that means is that we're triggering the same response even when someone looks funny across the table or raises an eyebrow, or leaves a negative comment on social media. It's a natural response, but not of these times anymore. How do get over it? Well, realising this is the first step I'd say...