How does revenge feel?
I never, as far as I remember, did revenge to anyone who harmed me.
There are certain people who hit me in school and they did it every day.
Planned, cold blooded, evil.
I wrote the school, 20 years afterwards, and they told me that I am 17 years too late. You have to report it within 3 years in order to get compensation for victims.
These people all applied for an education at the military and justice office by the way.
Because of that I am not able to take stress as much as others. Got anxiety, confidence problems and could not make an education.
When I ask people for money, nobody borrows me any.
So sometimes I think about how it would be to destroy their lives.
I asked many people what they think about revenge.
Mostly all told me that it would not help.
I hope for a nice discussion. Especially of people who did revenge.
How does it feel?
Is it worth it?
My position is, that I will not go down this path of violence like them.
But how do I get away the phantasies of harming them?
Revenge is driven by the primitive brain’s self-protective instincts. (If we don’t disable, harm or kill the one who wounds us they may do us in.) Unfortunately, that irrational brain level acts impulsively and spontaneously. It may not distinguish between a physical and emotional wound. Moreover, we can learn healthy coping skills to “condition our brain” to deal with our own pain rather than punish others for what we are feeling. If we “cool off” rather than act on those initial primal impulses we shift our response by using the thinking/reasoning neocortex to avoid physical and emotional retaliation. The more we learn about how our brain instinctively responds to emotional pain, we can control those primal instincts. This is why coping skills education now focuses on healing our own pain vs. trying to punish others because I don’t have the ability to get over it.
I'm glad that I asked.
And very happy that you answered.
What if I cannot heal fully? They hit me in the head, maybe neocortex with full power, always on the same spots.
The law is not helping me. The people are not helping me.
Why should I not go and take what they took from me?