Cooling down - how to control your (steemit) anger

Some people think I am stupid or on the wrong side sometimes when I try to BEPOSITIVE - maybe they are right, maybe not.  I am not a psychologist so leave this up to experts to tell me if i am good, bad or just rubbish.

However I will not let anyone here and on social media in general manipulate me towards anything. I am not planning to let anger dominate me - I have gone through such a phase in life and also on different social platforms - there is no need to feed trolls to feel better - ignoring things you consider unfair is sometimes better as falling into the anger trap (depends on your own judgement no what other people want to tell you is right!).

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It can become unhealthy when it flares up all the time or spirals out of control. Chronic, explosive anger can have serious consequences for your health and your state of mind. 

There are certain techniques how to get anger under control - everyone also on steemit can learn to keep their temper from hijacking their steemit life.

1) Explore what's behind your anger

Your childhood and education plays a crucial role to identify where anger problems stem from. Past experience  include watching family members scream, throw things, hit each other. So traumatic events and also stress can make you more susceptible to anger as well.

2) Be aware anger warning signs and triggers

Usually there are physical signs of warning before you explode. Anger is a normal physical response. It is important to learn about your own personal signs that your temper is starting to boil. Knowing this helps to manage anger before it gets out of control.

3) Learn methods to cool down

Going a bit into detail on this point which is an important one. This can help you to act quickly to deal with your anger before it spins out of control. 

Some tips for cooling down

• Take some deep breaths. Deep, slow breathing helps counteract rising tension. The key is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible into your lungs.
• Exercise. A simple walk around the block is a good idea to release pent-up energy. This help to approach a situation with a cooler head.
• Use your senses. Take advantage of the relaxing power of your senses - e.g.  listen to music, cook something etc
• Slowly count to ten. Focus on the counting to let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If this does not help - do it again 

4) Give yourself a reality check - ask yourself AFTER you cooled down!

• How imporant is this issue for my life?
• Is it worth to get angry about it?
• Is it worth to ruin the remainder of the day ?
• Is my response appropriate to the situation?
• Is there anything I can do about it?
• Is taking action worth my effort?

Sources: Helpguide.com, Psychologie Heute, Psychology Today, Pixabay