Meetings staggered between couples married

Reflecting on everyday issues. Those that appear all the time in the office and often for us, mental health experts seem obvious, but for those who live the dilemma - can not see it - as obvious.

I've thought about it a lot! How many times we end up providing obvious alternatives for people seeking help in the clinic. Calm! I'm not talking about the crisis, or phobias, or disorders in general, I'm talking about the day to day running, overwhelming, stressful that modern life offers us and that no one can shrug since people need to work, study, but also they need to go out to dinner, go to the theater, cinema, see and live life pretension.

But the subject now are the inconsistencies within marriage. I once heard that to have the We need to be the I and you. Soon two. Individuality. But it's not what happens in most marriages. I make no distinction between hetero, homo, that to me does not exist. What there are two people of the same sex or not, it really does not matter. What matters it is because these people tend to cancel each other to feel safe in a relationship that ends up unhappy.

It's so healthy to have new stories to tell, be able to share projects, after the next business trip or with friends. Men like that beer to relax, but women find it absurd, and time of the football then inadmissible.

My people, my people !! This is not advice, it is pointing. This need to annul the other to keep the pseudo control in the relationship is something ancient, archaic and does not take couples anywhere.

It's so nice wide smile and loose, lower charges, ask without charge, answer without charge. Relationships have ended for lack of reciprocity. I have followed in office real games with disputes where one always has to win and the other can not bear to lose.

The men complain of decreased sexual frequency, women complain about the lack of attention of partners, girls who marry girls complain of excessive jealousy, the boys who marry boys complain of inattention.

What I think, even in analysis, it is that the alternative is that each can be good and to look at other solutions to frustrations already installed and that relationships are not deposits of charges and accusations of endless disputes.

A fight spend so much energy that could be used for the harmony and balance of the couple. Ah! And one more question. No one is condemned to live with anyone, make your wedding a meeting a wishing well, day after day ...