I work in a high school, and today we had http://melindatankardreist.com/ Melinda Tankard Reist come and talk to the boys at our school about the way men and woman are cultured via advertising, media and porn into viewing woman in a particular way, through a lens of objectification and violence. She asked them to be heroic, like the boys who caught that swimmer (she mentioned that) and stand up and say no, it's not okay if people make rape jokes, or treat woman in a particular way. She wanted them to critique the culture that manipulated them to view sex in such a way, to treat woman in a particular way. I spoke to the boys afterwards and they were quite shocked, as the content was just terrible - rape culture, violence, video games and the sexualisation of children and so on - but they also felt angry that they were being socialised by media in such a way. It was NOT okay for them. They don't want thier mothers, sisters, future wives, children hurt in such a way. There are great people, like Tankard Reist, saying no to this.

I was raped. I dont want to go into it. I know exactly how you feel. Lots of us have been - for some, it defines their entire lives from that point on. I dont feel it does me, now, but far out it makes me angry. I'm glad you are okay now.

I guess what I'm saying is that it's up to us to educate boys, to pull them aside and tell them what it means and why it might be hurtful. To teach them to empathise. I dont think the young kids here at to blame, so they should never be reprimanded, only educated.