ATTRIBUTES OF A NARCISSIST

I recently saw the trailer of the movie No Good Deed Starring Idris Elba as a dangerous Narcissist and Taraji Henson as his victim. While I was anticipating the movie, I couldn't help but wonder the various types of people we come across in life, trust me, no one wants to be involved with a Narcissist. The good news is that a narcissist can get help just like a person suffering from depression, but that's not my topic for today. It will be really helpful to know if a person is a narcissist, that way you'll be able to make informed decisions on your actions or reactions towards the person.

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A Narcissist is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. In other words they think the world revolves around them..

Here are few attributes of a narcissist..

Control freak..

They always have a need to control everything and everyone around them.. They want everything to be just as they want it, they feel they are always right and that they are the best. They always want to be at the top and every other person below them and when they feel hurt or upset, they feel entitled to your sympathy and demand an apology.

Insatiable need for attention.

They always do things to get attention and validation and even when they are validated, they are not satisfied.. This is because deep down in their heart, they don't believe someone can genuinely love and accept them the way they are, so no matter how many times their loved ones validates them and showers them love, it simply goes down the drain..

Perfectionist

They crave perfection so much that they want everyone in their lives to act a certain way. It's like they have a script in their heads with everyone's part on it and they get upset when you don't do what the want. The are very vunerable and try so hard to bury it deep down thereby becoming egoccentric and proud.

Never take responsibility

They NEVER take responsibility of their actions, that's because they feel they are always right and perfect. If something went wrong they put the blame on people. A narcissist want to be in control and do everything their way and when things goes south, it is never their fault.. Most often they take out the blame on the person that is emotional and loyal to them, because they feel the person won't leave or reject them.

Entitlement..

They feel too entitled to other people's love, money etc.. And they feel insulted when they are told No.. They will go to any length to get what they want.. Manipulation, blackmail, set ups, demands etc..

INsensitive..

A narcissist doesn't know what other people feel because they think everyone thinks the way they do. They are not sensitive to other people's feelings. They are blind to other people's feelings except their own. They always feel like everyone is conspiring against them, even a joke will sound like a threat to them. They can't even figure their own feelings out, so they blame people for their negative feelings and won't even pay attention to how they make others feel.. They take decisions based on how they feel at the moment without considering their actions and they often jump from one relationship to another when they feel bored and depressed.

Afraid and anxious..

While these are normal feelings in a person's life, a narcissist try so hard to suppress theirs, they are afraid of rejection because of their imperfections so they try to make life miserable for their loved one till their breaking point. They are afraid of being alone, attacked, rejected, seen as inadequate or imperfect and They want to transfer their fears and anxiety to their loved ones so that they wont feel it themselves, and they feel better as their loved ones feel miserable.

The world revolves around them..

They lack empathy so much that they can't truly love and connect with other people. They want someone to feel their pain, sympathize with them, do everything they want but they can't do same for others. They can't do a thing that will beneficial to others except themselves, that is why they are unable to work in a team..

These are the attributes of a narcissist, it is left for you to decide if you are one and change or if you are dealing with one and run.. Narcissist are toxic people and if they don't get professional help, most of them tend to be really violent..

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