So agree with these! We have all been so fucked up and programmed wrong by society. We have not been taught the most important things, like how to love ourselves without giving a fuck (in a kind and connected way like you said), how to love others, how to think freely etc.. It takes such a short time (only a childhood) to completely mis-program us, and then it might take our whole adult life to get over that trauma, if we ever manage at all. At least if we are conscious of it, then we can take steps to consciously 'free ourselves'...