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RE: HOW ANGER CAN "SAVE" AND "KILL" YOU!
Hi @Jaime, I would like to add that it's important to differentiate between healthy, natural anger and blind, long-term hate.
I've actually just written an article on a similar topic, I guess you might find it interesting: https://steemit.com/philosophy/@lifenbeauty/is-it-good-to-be-a-highly-moral-person
Cheers!
Hi @lifenbeauty thanks for your comment. Just a note, if you want to differentiate between the differents levels and states related to anger is preferable not to use a language where a judgment is implicit like in healthy as opposed to non healthy, or blind as opposed to non blindness. I would suggest first to differentiate between the emotion - anger - and the acting out of the emotion, and also between short and long term.
The emotion of anger acts as a warning system that our boundaries and needs are not being met or even more, violated. The acting out of the emotion can either be proportional to the amount of abuse, or disproportionate, in this last case causing more damage than the initial abuse. Another aspect to consider is the internal locus of control, which is to say the psychological internal system that manages the starting and ending of the acting out behavior. If the person is able to stop the acting out behavior but unable to stop the cognitive feedback loop might result in long term rumination of angry thoughts (which have negative effects on the body physical systems - somatic - and can also influence deficients patterns of relationship). This is just a brief approach to the subject.
Thanks for the link to your article, I'll be glad to take a look at it.
Cheers!
Thanks a lot for the insight and the elaboration, well clarified.
Just one note: "The acting out of the emotion can either be proportional to the amount of abuse, or disproportionate, in this last case causing more damage than the initial abuse." - The damage also depends on external factors, for example if the abuser is much more powerful than us, it might be less damaging to act out with disproportionally low anger than to act our with proportional anger. Would you agree?
What you are talking about is the negation of acting out. It is the refrain from acting out the behavior due to the perception of the opponent being more powerful. So you can have not acting out (which is this case that you are mention), or acting out as one does in self defense (proportional), or in case of disproportionally like in domestic violence.