I have never been a person that is well equipped to deal with stress. With life experience, I have been able to find more effective ways to manage the stress. Life is stressful, unfortunately, there is no way to avoid stress altogether. I have four boys so my life has been pretty chaotic the last decade. These are a few things that work for me, maybe you will find them useful also.
Keeping Stress Minimal
Don't sweat the small stuff. If it doesn't actually matter, then don't let it. Let it go.
As the serenity prayer points out, accept the things you can not change. Some situations are things we simply don't have control of. Wash your hands of it and move on.
Be a fountain, not a drain. A positive attitude can go a long way. If you dwell in a place/situation filled with negativity, you will take on some of that negativity.
Create your own happiness. Happiness isn't something you have to depend on others (or materials, situations) to give to you. Happiness is something you can give to yourself.
Do something that makes your heart happie. For me that is singing, crocheting, fishing, exploring, or making art. It will look different for you. Find what makes you happie and do that.
Talk it out. Getting a different perspective on a situation, can sometimes help you work through it. Find someone you trust that loves you and get their opinion or simply vent to them. Support systems are important, build them.
It doesn't all have to be done right now. We live in a super rushed society that tells us "do it all NOW". Many things are not things that you need to be in panic mode over.
On that note, there is no such thing as waiting for the "right time". For your life to change, you have to effect change. Go out and cross things off your bucket list. Have kids, leave a toxic relationship, aquire a job you love. Do you.
No fucks given, not sorry" (Ted talk).
Do not let yourself be obligated to things that you don't want to be. If you don't want to do it (and it's optional), don't. We all have the same 24 hours in a day, use them how you want to.
If your plate is full, it's full.
Thank you for reading and as always, be kind.
"Don't Sweat the Small Stuff..."
Richard Carlson Ph. D