The Origins of Striving for Excellence

Perfectionism, like many psychological problems, comes from childhood. In families with inflated demands, children are very sensitive to criticism. Wanting to raise an ideal child, parents put very tall strides in front of the baby. He is praised only if the task is performed in the best way. A kid in such a family feels that we love only for high results.

As an adult, he believes that love must be earned, becomes avid for flattery and dependent on attention. The perfectionist sincerely does not understand why his knowledge or brilliant appearance can interfere with his personal life. He is vulnerable and offended, while absolutely closed to empathy and any flexible dialogue.

Surely everyone has an attractive acquaintance who took place in the profession, knows and saw a lot, but prefers to remain lonely. Most likely, he simply can not part with the inflated requirements to the partner.