4 habits that prevent success Very useful information

in #psychology5 years ago

You are the master of your destiny, you have everything under control, you work twenty-four hours a day and seven days a week. But for some reason you cannot step a notch no matter how hard you try. Perhaps, without realizing it, you become a victim of your own independence and industriousness?


No one is perfect: everyone has their own weaknesses or habits that interfere from time to time. But real leaders can see them, recognize them, and most importantly, get rid of them. The ability to change is the destiny of the strong and successful. Here are a few mistakes you can fix to achieve more.


RELY ON YOURSELF AND DO NOT KNOW ASK

We are used to thinking that strong independent people should achieve everything themselves and never ask for someone's help. However, many strong, talented and successful women in difficult or key moments of life were helped by ordinary requests. Of course, not only women seek help.


Steve Jobs in one of the interviews told how at the age of 12 he called Bill Hewlett, whose number he found in the phone book, and said: “Hello! I am Steve Jobs, I am 12 years old and I collect a frequency counter. I wanted to find out if you have any extra details that you could share with me. ” Hewlett talked with the young man for twenty minutes, and then gave not only details, but also a job at Hewlett Packard for the summer.


And, as Jobs later admitted, he repeatedly asked someone for help - and no one ever refused. And when people turned to him, he tried all his life to help them. Request is one of the most effective and universal rules of success, which we most often forget.

Not daring to seek help, we ourselves limit our possibilities. Everyone sometimes needs support, money, help with work. You can cope on your own, exhausting yourself and burning out, or you can ask - and they will almost certainly help you.


YOU ARE NOT ABLE TO RELEASE "REINS"

Today, there are often top managers who are not ready to let go of control and transfer tasks to their team. And in the end, instead of “orchestrating” independent and self-sufficient professionals, they create a system in which they themselves are both financiers, sales, and eychars, and strategists, and marketers.


And their top team is highly paid performers. This model, with the suggestion of 21st-century business thinker Jim Collins, is called "Genius with a Thousand Assistants." However, such a model does not work well and prevents your business from growing.


Jim Collins says: “If you have the right people on board, then the problem of motivation and management, in principle, disappears by itself. The right people do not need immediate guidance or incentives. They have enough self-motivation due to an internal desire to achieve exceptional results and participate in the creation of something great. " Just entrust them to do the work for which they were hired.


DO NOT WORK ABOUT YOUR CONTACTS

Successful people just need to communicate with their own kind, and even better with more successful ones. After all, the principle is simple: you become those with whom you spend time. Form relationships with prominent executives. Most top managers are well aware of their colleagues in the industry from which they grew up (finance, marketing, sales), but their network of contacts does not contain other, more experienced ones from whom they could learn a lot.


If you really want to improve your performance, act like an outstanding leader. They know that almost everyone can implement through their network of contacts. Surround yourself with people who have already achieved what you would like to achieve in the future. The close relationship with them is a powerful competitive advantage and accelerator of your progress.


DO NOT ABLE TO SLOW

A lot of successful people fall into the trap of their super-efficiency: they are so used to having their whole day planned, and the calendar contains meetings and important events for six months ahead that they absolutely can’t do anything. Any time spent not on work or on important tasks is perceived as lost.


This leads to the fact that a person gradually accelerates more and more and as a result lives in a frantic rhythm. And so many people live: Elon Musk, for example, works 120 hours a week, never takes a weekend, and sometimes writes on Twitter at half past three in the night that he has just returned from the factory. And he spent his 47th birthday at work.


Psychologists are unanimous: you can’t live like that forever. Inability to slow down the frantic working rhythm sooner or later leads to burnout, a decrease in creative abilities and apathy. Living constantly at high speeds is harmful. It is important to be able to stop in order to manage to receive feedback from the world and listen to yourself.


Learning to just do nothing and, most importantly, not feel guilty for the time, seemingly wasted. Those who are incapable of this often cannot create anything truly deep.

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