Dark tetrad - narcissist - what you should know

In essence, a narcissist is a pathetic crippled being who can't survive without other people's attention and he is more like an emotional vampire in that sense.

With no fresh inflow of inflicting mental abuse to others and feeding on their emotions and pain, he literally withers and dies.

That's why many narcissists are often depressed and 'nobody loves them'.

The first thing to notice about the narcissist is that they 'fall in love' so fast and they literary love bomb their victims.

But, they don't fall in love with a person, they just got hot for their next 'meal'.

Because to the narcissists, your emotional reaction towards him is food.

You, as a person, don't matter. He doesn't see you as a person, more like a plate of spaghetti.

So, if you somehow missed the first stage when he adores you and all that jazz, you will definitely notice the second stage, when he stops adoring you and starts harassing and gaslighting you.

Your tears and confusion, explanations and persuasion are just additional cheese put on that plate of spaghetti.
But, if he can't get enough from you or your reaction is not enough hormonal, not enough emotional, not enough outrageous - he will simply jilt you and find somebody else who is more explosive, more expressive and often more empathetic.

So, if you recognized a pattern and you simply want to get rid of a leech, stop reacting whatsoever.

One of the most common ways to recognize a narcissist is the way he will egg you to react negatively. He will be obnoxious and use any mean whatsoever to provoke the reaction by the things you hate or can't stand.

Now if you can withstand the afterglow, or if are born un-emotional, try to see how quickly this leech will crawl back after you fry him with teh anger and rage.

Because, that will be exactly what will you experience with that thing every single time you give him ' a lesson'. That is the only thing he needs you for.

After he drains you, he will pass his interest to another victim.

Just to be absolutely sure that you understand what I am talking about here, no normal person can stay normal sharing a life or any kind of bond with a narcissist.

The only 'person' ( better yet a creature) who can share a bond with the narcissist and not experience any sort of an emotional scourge is some sort of a hardcore psychopath.

You can't drain a dead guy...