RE: The Ways of Change - Part 2 - The Process of Attitude Change
Your articles have so many points that deserve to be delved deeper into, so I need to pick one, otherwise your page won't load properly anymore :)
So I take the very first sentence "You can't make or force anyone to change their attitudes".
Right! Often we tend to attempt telling and convincing others about our insights and try to rescue them in a way. But there is no need to rescue them! They have the right to experience themselves just as we have for ourselves. First and foremost, words are useless. Practicality is the clincher. Only when we practically embody change, then others "see" it. Quite often we forget the practical part when we focus too much on the theoretical part, which makes us unauthentic. Authenticity is yielded in practicality not in theoretic words. ;)
Thanks once again!
We can't change anybody but we can detect the people that say that they are going to change and the ones that are just having a new year's day kind of changes.
It means that when someone is changing from within, then we must help to create all the conditions that facilitate that change.
I have learned that if you are treating addictions (like hard drugs), the 3% normal percentage of cures for all life, was the people that would show to detox by their own decision, and not by other people influence.
The ones that were brought by the pressure of other people and did not want to get well, would never stop the vicious circle.
And yes the real statistics of people long-time exposed to hard drugs or alcohol only 3% get out of it for life(terrifying).
Like the Buddhist says "the fish dies by the mouth" for us mean only "don't eat too much", for them there is the spiritual meaning of "We must not say, what we don't intend to do", meaning you're dying mentally when you lie to yourself.
Attitudes are intentions to act, and if we don't act, it means we are lying about our real attitudes.
"The ones that were brought by the pressure of other people and did not want to get well, would never stop the vicious circle."
Yeah, that is why I say that leaving one's comfort zone is rather useless, because for me it implies that the external is pushing us to doing something we are not yet ready internally.