Toxic relationships

Have you ever wonder why some adults are living into a toxic relationship? No matter how their family or the one that love them try to open their eyes they always answer as 'she/he does that to me as a way to express her/his love and care'.
I have been reading and getting some experiences into this 'emotions' topic since years (as I said on my first post I just graduated from psychology) and I got an idea of what could be one of the reason of those 'toxic' relationship. Believe it or not whenever you are into positive emotions and getting the experience of how to deal and live with the negative one (that are important too in my opinion) you are a well prepared adult for the future. And if you start taking care of emotions since kids (like in the 'fresh start' of life as I like to say) the opportunities are higher than starting as an adult when most of the people (thanks God not everyone) think that emotions are nothing than 'decorations'.

To give you an example: The mother or the father etc. that are always screaming (sometimes even hitting) to their kids when they fail or those kind of situations that are even part of their evolutions and parents think is not acceptable since they normally see them as the 'lil adults of tomorrow so no time to fail' (most of the time they are even doing it because they are frustrated or like losing control when they are trying to be a good parents). So after that, what do parents usually say to their kids? 'Baby I only do this because I am your mother I care about you' 'Honey don't be a cry baby, as your father I need to teach you that people that cry and fail are the weakest and your are not that' 'I only do this because I LOVE YOU'.

Now if those situations are happening over and over again without a reasonable answer and thinking about their feelings, the kids will end thinking that being shouted or beaten means LOVE.
And that, in my opinion, could be one of the reason why as an adults they will be getting involved into toxics relationships.

They just need to know... To understand what is love. To learn how to FORGIVE and to not living in the past saying 'is all my parents faults' because at the very end, we don't have a manual on life when we have our first kid.

And remember, don't be scared of losing someone who doesn't feel lucky to have you by his/ her side. We are always here to help you.

Greetings, Alexandra Pérez.