Exactly. Pattern recognition is a useful tool in realizing how often people are probably talking about you behind your back.

Ultimately, it's a reflection of their character and not your own. I'm still learning how to release myself from the need to be seen positively in everyone's eyes, but I remind myself that what matters more is to view myself positively and to stop putting energy into the things I can't control.

Like anything, it's a process, but I've found this realization to be helpful in shifting my perspective on the matter.