Building self esteem through positive

A friend of mine asked me, "think I have low self-esteem? I replied: "Self-esteem is not something you have or do not like an object. The moment you do not express value for yourself, is acting with low self-esteem at the time that behaves with courage and consideration for yourself, is acting with high self-esteem "Then I asked him:. How do you want to act on your life tomorrow? She replied: "With high self-esteem in my actions." At that moment, the first step for the improvement of self-esteem had been given.

Improve self-esteem acting positive

When someone sees himself as unworthy and worthless, actually seems to be more reasons to dislike himself than love itself. Judge have low self-esteem is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The worse one feels about herself, less energy and motivation has to do what it takes to feel good about herself. Self-esteem will continue to decrease because the person's brain gets stuck in negative thoughts and circulars, hunkering down on beliefs that have little or no basis in reality.

Self-esteem improves, changing the thoughts and behaviors of the person himself. It is necessary to practice new thoughts and behaviors start to have positive feelings about yourself. The person must continue to practice them until you feel a healthy love about yourself.

It is easy to self-criticize when things do not go as planned. I really want to tell you, it is much more important how you act before the difficult situations of your life, and how the actions and behaviors you decide to have make you feel about yourself, than to judge you need to have a high self-esteem to your life be better.

The best way for you to feel good about yourself, you decide to do things, so that the return of your actions see their value expressed in them, rather than simply wanting to "have" more self-esteem. As I said earlier, self-esteem is not something you have but a sense built through the return of our activities, actions, behaviors and thoughts.

The day you stop acting with positive about yourself, you will feel low self-esteem.

Then I present some examples of how you can build daily self-esteem through positive, ie, actions, thoughts and emotions that may make you feel good about yourself:

• Treat yourself as a friend. Whenever you feel like being critical, try to understand the nature of this criticism, being compassionate and understanding about your requirements.

• Make a list of things you enjoy doing and feel fulfilled. They can be simple things like helping someone with the grocery shopping, visiting a friend who is in the hospital, or help your child in case of work (if your case).

• Accept the mistakes you make. Instead of depreciate, the focus can be on finding a better way of doing things for the next time.

• Try not to project your concerns or negativity about others. You may think the worst of yourself, but most people certainly do not think so about you. Interact with most people believing that they like you, or at least, they have no plausible reason not to like you.

• Talk to others with respect and expect the same in return. Tell people why you felt bad about something they said, instead of getting angry and resentful, or even judge that it's your fault you for speaking disparagingly.

• Defined realistic goals and reassess them when necessary. Do not send down because of not achieving some of its goals (probably unrealistic or too difficult). Strive to understand the circumstances and what prevented him from achieving the expected result.

• No problem in getting disappointed about yourself, so realize that self-esteem you feel is not your notes or your job.You are greater than your disappointments, setbacks or defeats. You are the one who before all this learning and you can decide to do differently the next time.

• Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, rather it is a sign of strength and will to grow. Be aware of your needs, and ask for support who thinks he can be an asset in your life.

• Do not depend on others to build self-esteem. Acknowledge your achievements, even the smallest. Feel all the positive emotions associated with them, even if nobody else has noticed it. Credit up by your efforts. Even if you can not reach a certain goal, congratulate yourself for having struggled and tried.

• Respect yourself and your values. Be well aware that that you give meaning, by which you are interested and above all what are the main values ​​that guide your life. Surround yourself with people who do the same.

• Change the way you see will not happen overnight. Accept that this is a life goal. You are continually building and experience your way.

• Take time to celebrate your accomplishments. Even if it's something small, it can have a huge effect. Go out with friends, inform them of your happiness and left you with your loved ones.

• Do not forget to have fun. Do not let your fears stop you from participating and doing things you love. Do not wait to feel good to engage in activities you enjoy. Get involved in activities that you like so that they make you feel good.

• Be patient with others and do not put them down. Be constructive reactions with others, this will help to change your reaction can.

• Do not let a negative thought between spiral causing further. A bad event or a bad day, means just that, just once, do not generalize to all.

• Allow yourself to feel your negative emotions, without being carried away by them. Emotions are temporary, and will see. You are not your emotions, therefore, you can feel them without necessarily merging them. Look them as feelings that you are able to change in time.

• Accept the things you can not change. Focus on what you can do to improve and leave negativity behind.

• Do not follow your voice criticism inside. If your first thought is negative, try to restructure it and create a better.

• Try new things. Be proud of your new skills and effort you devote to improve yourself.
  

  Start today to be more positive.