Negative Feelings; How to Cope

Do you struggle to cope with negative feelings about yourself?

Perhaps years of sexual abuse during your childhood killed a big part of your self respect and feel completely useless.

The deep sadness that results from such feelings seems to be pervasive today.

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When people are made to feel worthless by others, feelings of adequacy erupt. Such a state of mind may develop when one is accustomed to constant scolding, excessive and harsh criticism, or abusive exploitation. Whatever the reason, the consequences can be exasperating and even disastrous.

People with negative feelings about themselves tend to have no confidence in themselves and others, hence, unintentionally sabotaging close relationships and friendships. In a nutshell they create the very situations they feel terrified about.

They believe that they are never good enough due to these feelings. When something goes wrong, they spontaneously put the blame on themselves. Yet, others may commend them for their achievements, but deep down inside they feel like an imposture who will be bewrayed sooner or later. Thinking that they are unworthy of blissfulness, most people fall into self-destructive behavior that they feel powerless to control.

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Feelings of discouragement can undermine our energy, making us feeble and unprotected with no desire to change or to seek assistance.

YOU CAN FIGHT NEGATIVE FEELINGS

Nurture Impartiality In The Way You View Yourself. Undoubtedly, we would not want to think too highly of ourselves to the extent of becoming egotistical, nor would we want to go to the other extreme and think insignificant of ourselves. Instead, our aim should be to cultivate a reasonable view of ourselves, one that takes into consideration our fortitude as well as our limitations.

Truth be told, to achieve such a impartiality perspective is easier said than done. It may require a large scale of effort to reverse an overly negative view of ourselves that we may have developed over many years. However, we can change our personality as well as our outlook on life if we're determined to never give up.

Make Effort to Transform The Force Actuating Your Mind. We need to change our personality from one that is overly negative to one that is positive if we struggle to change the force actuating our mind.

Give. Giving is a key to finding true joy in life because this enables us to focus on the needs of others rather than in our own inadequacies. When we help others and see their appreciative response, or receive positive feedback from them, we feel better about ourselves.

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High Self-esteem. We all have a choice as to how we view ourselves and our circumstances. We can be like the one who sees everything negatively and feels afflicted, or we can decide to think positively, feel good at heart and be joyful as if we were at a banquet. Try to remain as positive as possible, try to surround yourself with positive people, and try to be there for others. Such a heart attitude leads to true happiness.

Confine in a Loved One or Trusted Counselor. This can help us get a grip on negative feelings and put them out of the way before they overwhelm us. Speaking with others can assist us to see things from a balanced, positive viewpoint. You need to tell someone how you are feeling or what you're going through. Often, just letting it out is all that's needed.

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We have considered few practical principles that can help us overcome negative feelings and find true joy. If you're among those who are struggling with feelings of inadequacy, I encourage you to make a closer examination of this post and learn to cultivate a realistic and healthy feeling about yourself.

It is my sincere hope that you will be able to find true joy and think positively in all that you do.

I appreciate @karenmckersie for giving me and other Steemians the opportunity to participate in this contest.