@steven-b fabulous, fabulous, fabulous and so insightful. One cannot always succumb to ones desires, there are repercussions and simply renaming the relationship as polyamorous to justify your actions, never works. You are still accountable for your actions. People have feelings and always get hurt. Your partner may not want to endure this situation and leave. This is why most people have clandestine affairs, so that there is less risk of them losing their partners. But then you still have to live with your conscience and she's a bitch.