This is really well written and handles a difficult topic better than I've ever seen.

One additional teaching of Jesus that I've found helpful is the parable of the wheat and the tares (weeds).

God sowed good seed and said that "an enemy [Satan] has done this" when he found weeds growing in His crop. Since His plan is to harvest 100% of His crop, the appearance of weeds constitutes a serious threat to that objective.

We wouldn't fault a farmer for trying to eradicate all the weeds from His crop would we?

Then take it up another level. It's not just a crop, it's God's children. (The weeds Jesus elsewhere states have the Devil as their father.)

So, then when we look at those horrific battles, we see a farmer protecting his crop and a Father protecting his family.

The weeds constitute an existential threat.

Because Israel did not fully obey those instructions, the weeds that were left continuously choked them spiritually - by leading His children into idolatry and worse.

So God, looking down through history is thinking about the gigantic harm that will happen if the weeds (which are destined for destruction anyway) are allowed to grow in the field where He is planting his most precious crop.

One exception to the metaphor - weeds are offered the chance to become wheat. "For all who received Him, He gave the right to become children of God." Best for the weeds not to complain about the farmer and accept His generous and unmerited offer to become wheat.

We look at the flesh side and think we are all the same species of humans. God looks at the spiritual side and sees a much different picture.