The US has become that country. When another country comes over and starts bombing the civilians around you will you say, "We were just unreasonable and didn't want to negotiate. China has every right to come over here, killing Americans, burning down our businesses and caging our children in "detention facilities."

Name 1 country that the US has put any SERIOUS effort into negotiating with. And then, find the history about those negotiations, but DO NOT just trust the newspapers and television. Find the official sources and documents and read them. Then ask yourself 3 questions: "Could we have done more? Could we have made a better effort? Did we even try?"