Pleasing personality

Some people have such a characteristic. No matter what kind of situation they encounter with anyone, when they are dealing with others, speaking and doing things, they will always have a subconscious reaction in their hearts, which is to please others.

For example, if two people who don’t know each other, one said, my friend, can I ask you a cigarette? The other person will hurriedly tell that person, of course it is OK, a little panic, at a loss, and quickly pass the cigarette to someone else.

Do they actually know each other? They don't know this person, nor do they owe anything to another person, but he will subconsciously please others. This kind of psychology is called pleasing personality.

In this world, there are many types of pleasing personality. This pleasing personality usually has a lot to do with a person’s family experience as a child. For example, when a child is a child, parents are always very strict with their children. Look good, or give some rewards, etc.

In this way, in the long run, a habit of the child will be developed, that is, to please others, that is, he will habitually please others in order to obtain some things he wants, or he may not have what he wants now. Just habitually please others.

This kind of mentality will make you sometimes get a good impression when you interact with others, and it will make people think that this person is a good person, very enthusiastic, and willing to help others, but in fact, for him, it may not be Feel happy, because he just subconsciously will not reject others, subconsciously to please others, instead of really willing to help others all the time.

Therefore, people of this type actually have a lot of distress, which is caused by the psychological habits of this personality.

So how to solve it? In fact, it is very simple, that is, think first and then act.

In other words, no matter who we meet in life, we must think before doing anything.

Think before reacting, rather than doing it subconsciously, because these people have developed the habit of ingratiating others in their past lives, and will hardly refuse others in many things, so if they don’t have such a level The act of thinking first is first, and he will subconsciously act according to his previous habits, which can never be changed.

And this kind of thinking is to change my previous habit. Everything needs to think about how I should do it instead of directly following my own habit. In this way, this kind of thinking first becomes a habit in the long run, naturally. You can replace the habit of pleasing others before, and this pleasing personality will naturally disappear.