How adorable. Thanks for the pictures that bring smiles. :)
You raise an excellent point in saying that parents want their kids to have a better life, but if they do too much to try to ensure it the kids wind up spoiled (and either miserable or people who make others miserable).
That you and your wife (what's her name btw?) realize this and are trying to balance for it goes a long way. I think that's all any parents really can do, their best within that eternal search for equilibrium.
Her name is @momone but she hasn't posted recently as too busy with study. I don't think she has her real name on the blockchain.
It is a struggle for parents these days as it is easy to spoil and hard to find suitable difficulty. In the past, farm life guaranteed enough hard life.
Well, there's always volunteering I suppose. It will mean you and your momone will have to also make time to do it though. But having children getting involved in helping others once they're maybe 5 or so does build character. It helps them to actually appreciate how much their parents are doing for them. Even just volunteering with hurt animals does that, doesn't have to be poor people or anything like that which may be too complex to understand/emotionally process at a young age.
The problem is that Momone would adopt them all. She was once late for a date because she saw a seagull that looked thirsty so went to a shop and bought it water....
LOL! You may need to pick your charities very carefully!