Surely, you should just try to be happy being yourself, conforming where it makes sense to conform?

Dress as people of your gender typically dress (especially, if you're a man - you don't want beating up) and don't get the police after you. Other than that, do what the hell you like (within reason). Just remember actions have consequences. It's really your call. Other than following the rule of law of the area you call home, I don't see how you can be forced into doing anything you don't wish to.

I assume a lot think like me. On the other hand, there are a lot who obviously don't, who feel they have to behave a certain way. But who gives a shit about them? If they're happy. If they're not, it's their problem.

You get one life. You have a voice (literally what you say and what you write). You're mostly in control of your own destiny or at least you should be / should try to be. My twopenneth, anyway.

Good luck :)