Determining Success: Giving Up Is The Hardest Thing To Do

Successful relationships are the ones that last forever. That is what people say. I don't. I believe in giving up. But only when the time is right.

I believe in shredding things apart when those things would the same to you. I believe in elegant destruction and sleepless nights, knowing that you did a right thing and still thinking about the ifs. I believe that success is in being fragile... in pure emotions.

I believe that good things have to end when the time is due. Not because we must suffer, but because ending good things open up spaces for great ones. I am even stupid enough to think that enemies can become family (and otherwise) and lovers can evolve into friends. The bond is constantly changing. And the only thing we should no give up on is changes.

People suffer because they are afraid not to suffer. People suffer because it's what they know how to do the best. And that's when giving up on suffering becomes hard. That is when we want to keep our pain because we are way too familiar with it. We don't want changes. We don't look for success.

And we applaud when friends become lovers as if it was some kind of fairytale. And we never seem to appreciate the evolution from lovers to friends. 'It defies success,' social norms would tell you. 'You are a failure,' those social norms would add.

And I try my best to understand the fact that nothing is better or worse in life. It is just different. ANd relationships are different as well. What should friends do when they fail to be lovers?