RE: Can we Make Friends Without Making Enemies?
@valorforfreedom yes you can make friends without making enemies. It depends if or if not the person has many of the same beliefs/interests as you do. If so it will be easy for you both to better along better. You should always be yourself and by doing so obviously there will be people that may disagree with you. This can make it more difficult to get along with those people. That fact of the matter is you WILL NOT always get along with others and they will not always get along with you. I'm not saying that you will be enemies but you may not like one another and that's fine. People tend to gravitate to people that as I said have things in common. They have a better likelihood of becoming "friends". The people that you find the opposite is true you would tend to stay away from because you don't have common interests or opinions. I feel that is normal. You also may not like one another as a result. This can result in arguing, etc. In this case they can become an enemy over time if things escalate in a bad way. A great, insightful post as always Phil. Oh and I would consider you a friend by the way.
Thank you very much for sharing your experience Gerry. My experience was that I didn't even make friends in the gym as the gym isn't enough to become friends, I am too far away from the norm.
I consider you a friend as well : )
Oh when I go to the gym I am not there to socialize honestly. I treat it like a job because it is "WORK". I focus on what I need to do (routine)for that day. I may have some small talk with someone there or I may not. I don't consider them friends though. Maybe a "Hi" or "Hello" but nothing more.
I don't hang out at other places : )