Burst my bubble

in philosophy •  15 days ago

Some days are like this where nothing seems to go according to plan and, the migraine started before the day did. I haven't really been able to look at a screen for most of the day as my central vision was unable to focus. I hate that feeling so much although it isn't so common for me these days a least. I did have plans to get a few things done today but, they have been pushed to 'some time in the future' because I can't really predict what else will popup along the way and what pins and thorns may appear.

The unpredictability of life is what makes it interesting but, it is also something that we are programmed to avoid. We tend to always be looking for certainty and stability which often leads to conformity, to fit into the group. It is a circuit that is easy to manipulate because all that has to happen is raise fears, create a sense of authority and then offer a solution to reducing risks and people will blindly follow. The more fear the better because it means the more ridiculous the solution can be without it being noticed.

Understanding our fears is one way to mitigate the risk of control but it is a skill that is largely untaught by parent, school or society. For the most part, these institutions feed our fears and create conflict and separation so that we are easier to push this way or that. A parent says, you better do what I say or else is no different to a government doing the same in later life. If anything, it sets up the mechanism for the government to commandeer and use to control.

When I am tired, sick, rushed and under the pressures of what life may present, I find that my default position with my daughter is to say, listen to me or else.. and I have to continually catch myself before the words tumble out. What I instead try to do is explain why she must listen, present the case, provide options and let her think through it a little and reaching some of her own conclusions. She is pretty good at it and, she is getting better day by day.

It is funny though. When she drops food on the floor for example she says, "O oh, we're in trouble, someone came along and burst our bubble" Something that she picked up a long time ago from me. Our bubbles are constantly being burst or at risk of facing sharp objects and I am personally glad for it. I find that if I go too long without having my thoughts, beliefs and the like challenged, I become dull and uncreative but, perhaps more confident. It is easy to be confident when you think what you know is correct. I have to remember that nothing I know is correct, it might just be the most correct thing at this point and with new information tomorrow, it needs to change.

Taraz
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Wonderful pictures my dear thanks for sharing

When we prepare ourselves for the worst we get less hurt even from the unpredictable situations there can be only two things that we will have this situation or not so we should try to prepare ourselves in the way that it doesn't harm us in a big way.

If the things go right then we can celebrate but if they go wrong we will have the situation in hand because we will be prepared for it with our solution 😊

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If the things go right then we can celebrate but if they go wrong we will have the situation in hand because we will be prepared for it with our solution

this is the hope. hope fore the best, prepare for the worst.

Take it easy. I was looking for your posts as you have been quieter today. Do you need glasses?

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I do need glasses, I am wearing them now :D

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Lol. I had no idea. I need glasses as the getting older thing is catching up with me. One day I will get around to it and see what I have been missing.

With your text, @tarazkp, you reminded me of a good professor I had in college. The guy was great in his classes, everything was planned, organized. There was no example, exercise that was out of his control. But as a social being it was a disaster! He feared him and dodged everything that was not known to him. I think that way he missed a good, the best, part of his life! There are things that we cannot control, man does not have, thank God, that capacity. The best trees are those that are flexible before the changes of time! Beautiful Saturday

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The skill of flexibility is being lost the more we engineer our environments. Mental flexibility means being outside of comfort zones, not echo chambers and feeds tailored to what we like.

Bubble bursting hopefully produces individual growth. Otherwise yes we do become stagnant and acclimate to the status quo. Most folks do not like pain. But as the cliche as said no pain no gain. Speaking of pain I hope you get feeling better soon my friend.

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Stagnant until death. People worry what comes after without really considering if they are living before.

Speaking of pain I hope you get feeling better soon my friend.

Thanks, I tend to power through most things :)

Flexability. How many days go just as we plan? I hear people talk all of the time about unexpected events and question why can't things go as planned? Because that would be boring! "The unpredictability of life is what makes it interesting". Yes, this same unpredictability is also the cause of fears in many people. It takes them out of their comfort zone.

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I wonder how many people can plan how to meet the love of their life?

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Exactly!

Your writing story is very nice . I like your story . Thanks for sharing @tarazkp

Photos beatyful)))

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